On another occasion, I was part of a discussion regarding the propensity to conceive identical twins. Being the mother of identical twins and having done much research in this area, I explained that the occurrence of identical twins is a “freak of nature”. A genetic accident where the egg splits in two to create two identical babies. Some of my fellow conversationalists just could not grasp the idea that my identical twins were not the responsibility of special genetic donations from my husband’s distant, twice-removed, relative-by-marriage who had identical twins… [we think]. Hell, there have been 5 sets of identical twins conceived in the past 70+ years in my extended family. That certainly proves the notion that this is a hereditary phenomenon. Doesn’t it? The concept that the occurrence of identical twins is governed by happenstance seemed unacceptable to many.
These two separate conversations fascinated me in their similarities. Yet they had diametrically opposite goals. The assignment of blame for a random genetic occurrence that was perceived as “bad” (read: Down syndrome) versus the desire to claim responsibility for a random genetic occurrence that was perceived as “good” (read: identical twins) was mind boggling. On the blog, http://happiness-project.com/, the idea of life’s “True Rules” suggests that some things hold true in life no matter what. Surely, the saying, “Sh#*! happens” is one of those true rules. Some things just happen. Without blame. Without responsibility. Without reason.
Well, thank God for happenstance. For “freak-of-nature” occurrences. For genetic mistakes. I am so LUCKY to have been “chosen”…. Because Brian and Michael are the most Phenomenal Genetic Accidents that have ever happened to me.